The other day I was sitting on the couch working on the blog when my phone pinged next to me. I had been working on Motivation Monday assets, thinking about what I wanted to write about for this week’s post, when my phone’s text tone snapped me out of the zone I was in. Noticing that the text was from one of my good friends, I paused what I was doing in Photoshop to read what it said. The words “I’m thinking about moving to France,” stared up at me from the screen. My immediate response that I sent back in haste? “OMG Yes!!! Yes yes yes. I think you 100% should do it!” (For those of you that know me closely, you’re probably laughing at what a Melissa-response this is). “Sorta thought that might be your reaction,” was my friend’s reply, to which I excitedly said “Follow your dreams my friend” seasoned with an emoji of hands thrown up in the air as if saying “more power to ya!”. I was so excited and invigorated by the short conversation already, I couldn’t wait to hear what more he had to say! His response wasn’t surprising to me, but it started to make me think about things. He said “But define those dreams first!” to which I responded, “No, just go. Don’t define shit.”
Around the start of the new year, we as individuals begin asking ourselves what we want to do in the coming year to be different than the prior. We establish New Years’ Resolutions, like eating right and exercising more often. Some people complete goal-setting exercises, outlining a list of things they’d like to accomplish in the coming months. At the start of each new year, we’re given the perfect opportunity to reflect on the year prior, and in some way, plan for the coming year. It’s a personal process for each individual, but can involve more traditional resolutions like leading a healthier lifestyle, to deciding that this is the year you are going to find a new job, start a family, learn a new skill, or even move to a completely new city!
I guess why my friend’s comment stuck out to me was because of this: There will never be a right time or a good time to make a crazy, rash, life decision! People are always going to think you’re crazy to move away from home, leave a good job, or embark on the unknown. There arealways going to be things that you should or should not do. Yes, my friend may feel as though he needs to define his dreams and decide exactly what he wants to do and why , but in my opinion, if he felt compelled to text me saying that he’s thinking about moving to France, the chances are, deep down inside, he most likely definitely wants to move to France. You see what I’m saying?
I read an amazing article this week entitled, “The Crossroads of Should and Must” If you have ten spare minutes, it’d be worth your while to enjoy this incredible read, or at the very least, add it to a future reading list for the next time you’re standing in line at the Post Office! In her post, Elle Luna does an incredible job describing the differences between should (how others want us to show up in the world — how we’re supposed to think, what we ought to say, what we should or shouldn’t do) and must (who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self). It’s truly an incredible, eye-opening piece that not only describes in writing, but illustrates with beautiful graphics, the difference between the two, and why we should always follow our “must”.
This week, as New Years Day readily approaches, I know you’re going to be thinking about what changes you want to make in the coming year. This post is my encouragement to you to just GO FOR IT – set your sites on those crazy, ridiculous ideas that your mom and grandma are absolutely going to hate (sorry Mom & Yiayia!). I know from hearing of others’ life adventures and personal experiences that no dream is ever too big or too wild to be accomplished.
Determine what you want and why you want it. Once you understand what’s important, you can utilize your passions and achieve anything!